Beautiful Life: June 2010

Saturday, June 19, 2010

4 OF 5 WOMEN PLAYING IN OFFICE

According to the findings of a survey in the UK, women in this country was 'savage' in the workplace. They love to flirt and sleep with her boyfriend, without remorse.

The survey was conducted in the UK on 2000 women between the ages of 18 and 35 tahun.Terungkap, at least 82 percent of women enjoying sex with her male colleagues. As many as 61 percent had slept with a male colleague one time throughout his career.

Among women who were asked, only slightly felt remorse after spending an evening such mengasikkan. Only 8% believe sex destroy his relationships. As many as 58% said such behavior was not affected.

When was this desire to vent, it seems that these women do not care where they enjoy it. As many as 25% have sex in his office, 16% in the office of women, 12% at the bosses desk and 4% admitted berasyik-masyuk in the cabinet office.

Mentioned, the boss is the main target of these women. As many as 20% of them admitted that they were willing to sleep with the boss if the reward is the increased positions, no matter whether the boss is attractive or not.

Two of the 10 women claimed to have slept with a former boss or the boss now. Among them, 47% did so without any bond and 15% eventually continued into the aisle.

The most intense periods of indecent act is that it is now an office Christmas party. It is said, as many as 41% felt remorse for committing this despicable act during a party.

At least as much as 33% fear a kiss with someone who did not to their liking. As many as 13% regretted the fall in this temptation. And 7% claimed that her clothes off is the worst experience.

According to the testimony of other groups, 34% do so because it is very drunk, 23% was determined to feel the sex was - 11% with the boss - and 7% used drugs first before enjoy this feast.

The survey was conducted by www.newwoman.co.uk, a woman in the UK site. But of course still need further research to ensure accuracy.

4 SIGNS PEOPLE aroused

Knowing what changes occur when someone is aroused useful to recognize the extent to which sexual intercourse has taken place, is already close to orgasm or not, and whether it can achieve orgasm or not. A perfect sexual reaction proceeds through four phases. The reaction that occurs when a person receives adequate sexual stimulation. When sexual stimulation is felt not enough, then the person will not experience sexual response cycle. But someone who experience sexual dysfunction, also will not experienced it but have received adequate sexual stimulation. There is no sexual reaction that occurs in each phase are as follows:

Stimulus phase

This phase begins when there is sexual stimulation, both physical and psikik. Reactions that occur in this phase may be faster or slower, depending on the intensity and effectiveness of the stimulation, physical health, and previous sexual experience. In women, this phase was marked by the perlendiran vaginal blood flow as a result of dams on the walls. Perlendiran causes penetration of the penis into the vagina
take place easily, and painlessly.

Another reaction that occurs is clitoral erections, which is to become tense and enlarged, all parts of the vagina widened but two thirds of the more broad and elongated, the uterus is lifted, big lips widened and raised. Also enlarged breasts with nipples taut.

In men, the real reaction is caused by the dam penile erection blood in it. Testicles lifted, leather bags testicles (scrotum) appear more slippery. The degree of penile erection is strongly influenced by the intensity of stimulation and physical condition. In addition to the genitals, some other body parts also have reactions. Heart rate and blood pressure increase, increased muscle tension, breathing frequency increased, and on the skin occurs
reddish patches (sex flush).

Flat phase

In this phase, significant changes in blood flow of women is a great dam on the wall of the vagina third exterior. This reaction is called Orgasmic platform. As a result, vaginal third outer narrowed about 30% or more. While the vagina 2 / 3 part in widening. Other changes are part of the stem and the head of the clitoris pulled back. This position changes, coupled with blood flow to the dam wall genital lips, the clitoris is difficult to see, even hard to the touch.

Sections around the nipples which began tightening in the late phase of stimulation, it becomes increasingly tense. In 50-75% of women occurred reddish spots, which usually begins in the pit of the stomach, breast and spreads to the chest wall. This spotting can also occur in other body parts, including the buttocks, back and face.

In men, there was a slight increase in diameter at the base of the penis head, while color becomes older. Testicle size increases due to dam the flow of blood. Sometimes a bit of fluid out of the penis, which comes from the Cowper's glands so that the tip of the penis wet. Fewer men who have reactions reddish patches (sex flush). Changes in other body parts still occur, ie increased muscle tension, heart rate, blood pressure, and respiratory frequency.

Orgasm phase

If stimulation continues, then the peak was reached sexual reaction, namely an orgasm. At this moment of sexual tension is suddenly released. Physically, the orgasm is the shortest phase in the sexual response cycle. Usually only lasts a few seconds, which is characterized by rhythmic muscle spasms that are causing strong physical sensation, followed by rapid relaxation. Rhythmic muscle spasm is not just happening on the genitals, but also on all other body muscles.

In psikik, orgasm is the peak of sexual pleasure. Events orgasm vary at different times, and also varies in each individual. Sometimes an orgasm is a sensation that is very explosive and extraordinary, but for others may be something going on with quiet and less dramatic. This intensity difference is caused by several physical factors such as exhaustion and the time since the previous orgasm. Also be caused by factors such psikik personal relationship with a partner, and feeling at that time.

But the sensation of orgasm is not always the same with sexual satisfaction for sexual satisfaction involves a deep emotional involvement. Executors can masturbation orgasm but may not feel sexual pleasure. In women, orgasm is characterized by rhythmic spasms in the third outside the vagina, uterus, and the muscles around the anus. But the actual reactions that occur are the total whole body, not limited to the genitals and surrounding areas. Orgasm in women may occur many times the home continue to receive adequate sexual stimulation. But some women only achieve orgasm at all. On the front wall of the vagina there is the outside of an area called the G spot. Stimulation of the G spot orgasm cause different compared with the stimulation to the clitoris. Some women who received stimulation to the G spot orgasm is accompanied by "ejaculation". But of course the liquid that comes out is not the sperm, as occurs in men during ejaculation.

Fluids released when women "ejaculate" is presumed to derive from the Skene glands around the urethra (the urethra). Therefore liquid "ejaculation" are removed through the urethra. But the liquid is not urine. In general, men can easily reach orgasm. Male orgasm easily felt because it occurs with their partner ejaculates. Actual orgasm and ejaculation are two different events. In certain circumstances, an orgasm can occur without ejaculation.

Children, for example, can experience orgasm without ejaculation, since sperm are not produced. Conversely, ejaculation can occur without the sensation of orgasm, for example due to nerve disorders. In general, men can only achieve orgasm first time. After that he will enter the refractory period in which he seems immune to the stimulation and unable to achieve orgasm and ejaculation again. Refractory period was influenced by age, state of health of the body, and received sexual stimulation.

But men can orgasm more than once, if able to control so that ejaculation does not occur. So before ejaculation, orgasm can be achieved more than one kali.Perubahan-changes in other body parts still occur, ie increased muscle tension, heart rate, blood pressure, and respiratory frequency.

Phase Resolution

During the resolution phase, sexual organs and other body parts were to change, and returned to its original state Often this occurs in the last phase of sweating reactions can happen on the entire body.

By recognizing the various changes that occur during the sexual response cycle can be detected harmonious sexual relationship took place or not.

12 QUESTIONS FOR ASSESSING SEX Addiction

A simple way to assess whether a person suffering from addiction to sex. Twelve following questions may be a useful tool for you to find it:

Do you keep secrets about your sexual activities of people who are important in your life? Whether you live two lives at once?

Have you pushed your sexual desire to have sex in places, situations or with people who normally would not you choose?

Are you looking for articles or pictures that are sexually stimulating in newspapers, magazines and other media?

Is your sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or become your refuge from the problems?

Did you always want to get away from your partner after sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual experience?

Do you feel ashamed of your sexuality or bodies, such as you avoid touching your body or perform a sexual relationship? Are you worried that you yourself do not have sexual desires and that you are an asexual?

Does each new relationship continue with the same destructive patterns, which causes you to decide a relationship?

Do you need a frequency of sexual activity and a greater variety than ever before in obtaining the release and satisfaction?

Have you ever been arrested or are under threat to be arrested for peeping habits, naked in public, prostitution, sex with someone who is not old enough, indecent conversations on the phone, and so forth?

Is your sexual life patterns and beliefs interfere with your spiritual development?

Do your sexual activities contain risks, threats, disease, pregnancy, coercion or violence?

Your sexual behavior ever left feeling empty, isolated, and wanted to commit suicide?

If you find an answer 'yes' on more than one of the questions above, you are advised to seek further information or consult with an expert psychiatrist or seksologi.

SEX TOOLS

The genitals are the sex organs in male and female pelvic regions. Male genitals and female genitals are divided into external (visible outside the body) and genitals in (which was in the body). External genitalia are male penis and scrotum. Genitalia it is the testes, epididymis, and vas deferens (located at
in the scrotum), seminal vesika, prostate gland, ejaculatory channel, Cowper's gland, and urinary tract.

In terms of sexual play and sexual relationships, the most important part of the male genitals are, no doubt, penis.Seperti well as male, female genitals are the inside and outside. Outside the female sex organ as a whole is called the vulva, where they are including the clitoris, the two pairs of folds called the labia, mons pubis, and the mouth of the vagina and urethra within the vestibule vestibule. The outside of a woman's genitals and surrounding area is very sensitive to physical stimulation and play a large role in sex.

External genitals are sensitive to the touch and when they are stimulated or when a man or woman to be roused passions, genital changes that make sexual pleasure, and at certain moments, can reproduce in the female genital terjadi.Alat complex including the hymen,
Bartholini gland, urethra, vagina, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes pair, and two ovaries. Vaginalah are always engaged in sexual activity, in which the fallopian tubes, uterus, ovaries, and cervix are important organs of reproduction. The role of the gland still dipaha Bartholini

WHAT WOMEN WANT FROM THE RELATIONSHIP sex?

The women generally are more sexual satisfaction than the satisfaction of his partner to reach orgasm. They are more concerned with emotional closeness and feeling comfortable when talking about sexual activity with a partner. This was presented by John Bancroft, MD, director of the Kinsey Institute
in meetings that discuss sexual function in women.

What worked was revealed by researchers in a 1000 survey of more than heterosexual women to use a computerized phone is that factors such as mood, general welfare and the relationship seems to be the most important contributors, more than an orgasm, for women's sexual well-being.

According to respondents, the factors that determine their sexual well-being is as follows (sorted from most important):

 Public Welfare - defined as having a spirit,
 tranquility, and good mood
 subjective sexual experience - an emotional reaction during
 sex
 Attraction to partner
 Sexual Response - physical changes, including the orgasm, which
 arise during sex
 Frequency of sex with their spouse
 Sensitivity to the needs of their partner
 Personal Health
 Health partner

In 1942, Alfred C. Kinsey, SCD, founded the Institute for Sex Research, Inc., To research on human sexual behavior. The findings of Kinsey and his colleagues, based on

interview of 18 000 men and women, published in Sexual Behavior in the Human Male (1948) and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female (1953). The results of these studies have paved the way for further studies on human sexuality conducted in accordance with the terms of the laboratory and aims to obtain a more realistic understanding of sexual behavior.

WOMEN ARE ejaculate?

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Asexual

Asexual term absences related to sexual activity or low levels of sexual response. Unity cells of male and female sexual (such as sperm and egg in humans) is at the core of a reasonable reproduction among mammals and most non-mammalian species. However, many organisms that reproduce through asexual means, such as spore formation, bud, or cleavage. Organisms that reproduce in this way has no gender.

Aseksualitas also be related to lack of interest or involvement in the sex in sexual species. Some religious stream requires its members to some degree to stay away from sex. Although they may have had a normal sense of sexual interest, they are required to swear not to do so. In recent times, the lack of involvement in sexual activity can cause a loss of interest

sexual. Pledge to stay away from sex can be carried out outside the religious arena, although usually depends on the time and conditions. Disinterest in sex can also be caused by sexual dysfunction: ie, psychological or organic condition that prevents normal sexual behavior and responses. Specifically, in the case lack of sexual attraction will be filled, this condition can be diagnosed as sexual desire disorder.

In this disorder the patient did not have sexual fantasies or desire sex is fixed. Furthermore, these individuals showed a strong aversion to genital contact either heterosexual or homosexual. In addition, the ongoing failure in sexual response may lead to avoidance of sex or sexual situations. This can happen anytime in the age of a person's life, but tends to occur more frequently in older people. Conditions like these can have emotional roots, or it can also have an organic cause. Often they can be cured through sex therapy and / or medical intervention. However, this disorder may also reflect the complex psychological problems are difficult to cure. In addition, some individuals may be biologically incapable of sexual desire or engage in sexual activity and even a member of the sexual species, they are asexual. But this is a rare condition and most from sexual dysfunction can be overcome by therapeutic interventions.

HOW TO CHANGE WHEN PREGNANCY SEX RELATIONSHIPS

In the first trimester of pregnancy, your spouse may make you more eager than usual. For some men, the ability to make a woman becomes pregnant, is a form of assertion of "manhood" himself (before he became the candidate's father, most men feel afraid that if they are infertile and can not be knocked up a woman). In addition,

many prospective fathers who feel closer to their wives who were pregnant, and their closeness is often expressed erotically.

For some other guy, first trimester (probably also over the period of pregnancy) is the period decrease their sexual arousal. Before your partner pregnant, for example, perhaps she is a woman who was beautiful, very sexy and your loved ones. But now, when you're pregnant, her body became "swollen" and no longer looks exciting. And even worse, having your wife give birth, you know that he will become a mother. And a mother often does not look sexy because they do not have time

longer care for herself. If you adhered to the principle that sex was merely a tool to breed, then you will feel that there is no point in having sex when your wife is pregnant.

Along with his parents pregnancy increases, the difference between those who want to have sex with that does not also continue. most men, for example, feel that their partner's body is enlarged, is the essence of femininity, and by

therefore look very attractive. But some did not feel that way. Enlarged abdominal their partner, with breasts that dripped, it may be seen more dirty and less exciting.

Sex safe for your baby in the womb. Perhaps the most common reasons of a man (and woman) to reduce sexual activity during pregnancy is a concern when they hurt the baby. If you also have

feeling like this, you should be calm, because your baby is actually floating safely in a bag containing the amniotic fluid. Almost no chance for you to hurt your baby, unless you do a rough sex. But this of course does not apply to women who are prone to miscarriage.

The idea of sex during pregnancy also has other advantages. This might make your wife feel closer to you, and do not feel worried anymore even though you do not use contraceptives. He may find that the idea of creating a form with your life as something

very erotic. He may also be very happy with her body being expanded and looks more feminine.

Other hand, your wife may spend most of this first trimester with nausea and vomiting due to pregnancy. And this is probably not very exciting you.

In terms of sex, for most men, their wife's body is changing is the source of numerous conflicts, misunderstandings and confusion. You might be aroused to see your body shape of a pregnant wife, but did not want to do anything that has to do with sex because of fear

if he does not feel himself interesting. Conversely, your partner may feel more sexy than ever before, but did not want to start a sexual relationship for fear that you no longer love her shape.

Communication is important

The solution is to communicate with each other. You need to be open about feelings, desires and your needs. You also need to expand the horizons of variation of sexual relations - especially in the last months of pregnancy, when your partner no longer feels comfortable with the missionary position, or even impossible to make contact with this position.

Actually, you have a wide selection of sexual variations that can give satisfaction to you both. Sexual relationship with the position of the rear entrance, each lying on the side (spooning) or the woman on top, are examples of good position.

HOW WOMEN SATISFACTORY

When a new partner to have sex for the first time, can you guess that sex is less enjoyable sex is more common than spectacular. This is perfectly normal, because they are still a little nervous about what to expect from one another and really do not know what is liked by her partner.

But if you follow these suggestions, you would probably be one man among so rare, that can give satisfaction in the sexual prime.

We all know that first impressions are very play. The same is true of the prime sex with your partner.

Preparation

The first thoughts that should have occurred in your head is: "Does my body clean? Does my armpit scent?" No woman wants to close within nine feet from the man who smelled like a sardine sandwich bread / tuna / garlic freshly prepared. So, wash up before you start 'battle', and then shave or trim the hair on your body, brush your teeth and tongue well, and ...... do not forget, you must replace your underwear.

Neatness yourself is also important. Do not forget to wear fresh-smelling deodorant for your underarms. A little gel or mousse in my hair and spray a little cologne would smell good for you.

Location

If you are an entrepreneur, you know that the three most important decisions you can make is location, location and location. Guess what, same thing applies in the romance.

So, before doing 'bout' this, you need to make sure that the room was in a state of neat, fitted sheets are freshly laundered linens, the candles are in a state ready to be lit and no strange smells spread through the air.

Create an inviting atmosphere mood

You can play beautiful music to create a romantic atmosphere. But you need to select the type of music and the right singer.

Many men who made the mistake of not using their imagination to choose the right music. They often play the songs that is predictable and boring. If you are confused, you may be able to try music tribal (ethnic) or electronic jazz without vocals.

Heating

Heating is not the act of releasing a skirt and bra pulled off your spouse. A good lover knows that the warming begins many hours before the 'battle' and involves physical and mental game. The secret is to be patient and slowly (take at least two hours).

Undressing is a great way to start a physical warm-up. But, remind yourself to it slowly. Create dramatic as possible. The longer the time that you use, it will become increasingly impatient.

Open the clothes one by one by hand and your lips. When you are opening parts of his clothing, massage the body part that is open simultaneously.

Investigation

Do not touch the 'gate' ecstasy before her vagina becomes wet with liquid. If he had not experienced it, you will need to continue with heating. Remember to keep your hands clean - especially your fingernails.

Instead melulurkan saliva in your fingertips, as do most men, wet 'gate' is. It's more sexy and not look like a mechanical nature. Then your hands should go into her vagina and G-spotnya pressing lightly. If he started very excited, add one or two fingers and continue to move in and out gently and slowly.

Create she orgasms

In a perfect world, you probably hope that your female partner to orgasm first. However, because life is "very unfair" ... :-), Most men climax earlier than their mistresses. If this happens, remind yourself that how unpleasant it was and how unfair if you do not give the same pleasure of orgasm on her lover.

Once you reach the climax, enjoy and feel it. Then jump back to 'fight scene' until your partner reaches orgasm too. Your lack of energy? Try two bottles of energy drink and let this incredible beverage restore your energy throughout the night. If he still does not reach orgasm, and you do not have the energy to perform intercourse, it is recommended that you perform oral sex on them, all you can, without complaining. Remember, your reputation is at stake!

Bisexual

Bisexual women and men who are sexually attracted to members or eroticism of both sexes. Usually - but not always - bisexual men engage in sexual activity with partners of both sexes. Jargon term that refers to people that bisexuality is an AC / DC (based on the terms used to describe two types of electric currents), 'bat-change' (a term that describes a baseball bat to hit from any side, depending on who throws), or the person who 'swings in both directions' (another baseball phrase, but could

also associated with swing as sexual behavior).

Compared with heterosexuality and homosexuality, very few scientific studies have been conducted on the bisexual. Based on the study which was done, it seems that people are not bisexual people are essentially homosexual tendencies but it also has some of the behavior of heterosexual sex. They have not the tendency of people who are basically heterosexual, but who also enjoy sex homosexual behavior. Also, basically, they are not the people who - at one stage in their lives - engage in sexual behavior with someone of one sex and then at another stage, engaging in sexual behavior with people of other sexes, although This continuous pattern of change is sometimes called transitional bisexual. However, a bisexual is a person who is more sexually attracted to persons of both sexes during the same time in their lives.

It is estimated that people get experienced events and bisexual men in several different ways. For some people it begins as a form of trial to add a spark to their sex lives, but it does not become the main arena of sexual activity. For others it is their deliberate choice to participate in whatever feels most comfortable at that time.

There are three specific circumstances that have been considered to encourage the emergence of bisexuality:

Sexual experiments on the relationship between good friends quite common among women and can also occur between two male best friends, or a homosexual man may develop a sexual relationship of normal relations, but friendly, with a woman.

Group sex is another place to experiment bisexual. Finally, some people take the philosophy of bisexuality as a result of growth in personal belief systems. For example, a woman who had been active in the women's movement found that they became close with other women through the experience and

This closeness translates into sexual expression. Bisexual men may experience homosexual attraction and engage in a homosexual experience before they become aware of their dual sexuality. For women, the tendency is to experience first heterosexuality.

Although people with bisexual tendencies do not just get along with any forms, there are some patterns that may be applicable to many bisexual. Some men and women seem to switch their choice of sexual partners at random, depending on supply and circumstances. Some have done in the form of this relationship, looking for alternative sex couples from the time

relationship that is now expired. In another case, a bisexual may have relationships with both men and women. Abuses during the relationship can still be used to express a person bisexual tendencies. Almost always - whichever of these patterns are valid - people with bisexual tendencies have a tendency toward a relationship with one sex than the other. Researchers who have studied the double female sexuality noted that some women who call themselves bisexual say that they have some emotional needs

best met by a man and several others of the most well filled with women. Some bisexual men gave this reason as well, but much more frequently bisexual men describe their sexual lifestyle in terms of need for variety and creativity.

People generally know their bisexual tendencies in adulthood compared with heterosexual and homosexual. The majority of people imitating life and move into the heterosexual bisexual relationships without consciously or without previous thinking.

Most individuals are aware of their interest in same sex to try to deny their interest and try to adjust myself for a while with the heterosexual lifestyle is more accepted in society. Usually the time of adolescence there is a growing inner conflicts about their sexual preferences which may not be resolved fully until adulthood. Because most people, even people with an interest in bisexuality, is considered

as heterosexual or homosexual, these people seem to struggle for a longer time, trying to adjust to one lifestyle or the other. Common for people to have quite well into their 20s or 30s before receiving their bisexual tendencies. The definition of what a normal society, proper, correct, and naturally has a profound influence on how people feel about their sexual orientation bisexual. Therefore, negative views of bisexuality, was not surprised when men and women with bisexual tendencies to feel alienated from and pressured by both heterosexual and homosexual communities. For them, this can lead to serious questions about their sexual identity. Bisexual men had the same problem with homosexual people in 'out' into society and their tendency to tell

to family and friends.

Someone who is bisexual may often find that it is more difficult to initiate and maintain relationships than heterosexual or homosexual person. Because people are different and bisexual people often get me wrong, those who do not have that tendency may be rejected or feel that the friendship with people who tend to survive or bisexual men can not satisfy. Jealousy, which can be a problem in any relationship, especially likely to occur in a relationship with one partner bisexual. The threat of competition that will be so widespread it can become extremely pressing

for couples who are not sure of their relationship. Still so much more to be learned about nature bisexual, and perhaps, as people become more accepted in the bisexual community, scientific studies will be adding new information on what which has been known now.

HOW TO HAVE GREAT SEX?

Each partner would never forget the wonderful experiences they've ever had, including experience in sex. Maybe all this time you are people who feel that your sex is less satisfying and you want to make a change. Here we discuss a few things that could predict whether you will have a sexual relationship great.

A: physically fit

Sex requires physical energy. Being in a fit condition not only makes last longer, however, you will also enjoy sex more done because of concerns over the loss of muscle pain that occurs afterward. And again, someone who is fit will look more attractive

physical. You'll be pleased to know that people who sleep with you to maintain good physical condition. In addition, a person who was in a state fit, will be better able to perform maneuvers in a position of intercourse. To become more fit, you have several options, for example, became a member of a gym and start practicing. In addition, you also can work out the road distance or biking with friends.

Two: well-coordinated

All great sex requires a rhythmic and coordinated movements. Uncoordinated movements that would make someone look stiff. Coordination is not something owned by someone naturally. Coordination can be enhanced with a variety of exercises, for example: with more frequent sex. In addition, coordination can also be learned by following dance classes, yoga, tai chi or swimming. All the exercises require concentration of energy and the use of several body parts simultaneously.

Three: Able to communicate well

Great sex requires communication, share your feelings with your partner about what is desirable and what is not preferred. Furthermore, great sex (for the long term) also need to feel bound to each other. Feelings are bound to each other show that you understand the feelings of your spouse and vice versa, your partner will understand your feelings. Good communication skills also include the ability to listen well.

Four: always feel 'unsafe'

Lover who felt 'unsafe' tends to be very aware of how feelings, reactions and thoughts mate. As a result, he tends to work harder to ensure that their partners really feel happy. This makes a more powerful sex. If her partner does not feel good, then he also will not be happy.

Five: willing to take risks, to experiment and find the limits of one's personal

Six: Practice

Exercise will make you be a 'player' a more perfect!

Erectile NOT ALWAYS DUE TO SLEEP WHEN DREAMS slob

Normally, men can experience erections while asleep. In fact, the men may have begun to experience it when was a kid, before they know the sex. A healthy man experienced four to five times every night erections throughout their lives. The frequency and intensity of erections during sleep was found highest during adolescence.

Technical name for an erection while sleeping is a Nocturnal Penile tumescence (NPT). A study of the relationship between the NPT and sleep cycles are reported in the Archives of General Psychiatry in December 1965 edition. In the study, the researchers found that erections every night this happened during the phase of "dream sleep", also known as REM sleep (rapid eye movement). What remains unknown is whether the content of the dream affect the occurrence of an erection.

It seemed certain that not all erections during the night associated with erotic impulses - our dreams are not only filled by the things that smelled of sex. We may regard the NPT as a "blood bath" which nourish for penis. Blood flow increases during erection will supply oxygen-filled blood to the penis and can make healthy tissues in it. According to clinical experience, when a man stopped having erections during sleep, they usually begin shrinking penis.

Since the NPT is a normal event in the life of a man healthy, urologists often test it to find the underlying cause of a case of erectile dysfunction (ED). Most long-term erectile disorder caused by physical problems, such as interruption of blood flow to the penis or diabetes. The men with erectile disorder that long term will eventually stop having the NPT. Conversely, men with emotional or psychological problems (eg depression) that
cause erectile dysfunction should still experience the NPT. Of course, for some men, ED is associated with the problems they have experienced physical and psychological.

Fantassy

Fantasy refers to one's mental image of an object, or situation, and often but not always involve sexual component. Fantasy may be based on past experience or merely an illusion. In general, the fantasy is a combination of both. It is normal for a person to fantasize. Human sexuality is a dimension of social life that is often rich with various kinds of fantasy. Sexual fantasy scenarios often require mental
involve others outside the couple and include activities that are not received or is deemed inappropriate to the culture. Person's ability to fantasize and pleasure obtained in this way is very diverse. For some people fantasy replaces reality or for others it becomes a poor substitute for sexual reality. Fantasy is often triggered by external stimuli, such as an attractive stranger or pictures, movies, or erotic stories.

Research-research that there had different views on gender differences in fantasize. Some argue that men are more prone to fantasies while others insist that fantasy is more common in women. Linda Wolfe conducted a study on 15 000 women aged between 18-34 years old, and less than three percent say they never fantasize.

In Western societies, men are more likely to use sexually explicit material as part of the activities of their fantasies, while women more often use romantic story. Women prefer erotica with a side of a more "refined",
that allows exploration of the imagination. This is different from men who prefer erotica "hard", or a more explicit erotica.

Male fantasy world is dependent upon a new experience full of beautiful women that contains a defined culture and who are always willing and sexually free. Pornographic magazines like Playboy and Penthouse ¬, as well as publishing a series of more "hard" (because it shows explicitly sexual activity),
attempt to seek profit from such fantasies. Women more often base their fantasies on past experience and tend to emphasize the romance and intimacy. Beginnings of women's liberation movement created the renewal of erotic fiction by and for women. In Women On Top,

Nancy Friday insisted that the sexual revolution, women have started to fight for equality and this should be implemented with a rich fantasy life. In his study of more than 10 000 women, noted Friday that the recent fantasy women are more inclined to view themselves as active and assertive woman who gives pleasure. This is very different from the results indicated earlier research, which shows that more women see themselves as passive woman who merely receive pleasure. These findings reflect the importance of the social environment (eg, the impact of the feminist movement) towards the formation of fantasy.

Usually people fantasize during sex or masturbation otoerotik. In his research findings, Alfred C. Kinsey reported that the majority of women (64 percent) and all men fantasize while masturbating. Approximately two percent of women in the study sample could reach orgasm by only
fantasize. Older women tend to fantasize more than younger ones. Some people, particularly those living in rural areas, but this does not always, fantasize having sex with binatang.Berfantasi about certain sexual act that does not mean that people actually want to do or be able to enjoy that behavior. Fantasy can indeed improve the actual sexual activity, but can not be assumed that fantasy latent desire to represent the behavior. So a woman could fantasize that he controlled or even raped by men, but this does not mean that he did want to be raped. Then, probably a male fantasy to have many sexual partners, but
in fact she felt emotionally difficult to establish several relationships at once in some time.

Lately the question of fantasy become more open and more and more recognized that this behavior is fair, both for men and women. Sometimes the fantasy that the private nature "is realized" with a partner to enhance sexual pleasure. Computers and the Internet have contributed
in shaping a new field for the behavior of a fantasy, a place where the vehicle was extensive exchange of electronic pornography, communication "role-the role of" interactive, means of chatting on the topic of fantasy, fantasy and other communications
which dierotiskan or not dierotiskan among computer users. Therapists found that fantasy can help patients overcome sexual problems. With the help of a therapist, a person can face the stage through a fantasy of intimacy and romance are a scourge for him and reduce or eliminate the fear and reluctance.

FOCUS SENSATION

Sensation is the focus of the sequence of specific exercises for couples in which each side took turns giving increasing attention to their feelings. This exercise was originally developed by Masters and Johnson to assist couples experiencing sexual problems, but can also be used as a variation and to increase personal awareness of your partner.
When used as a treatment, the focus of sensation carried out in several stages during therapy. The first stage is usually carried out around the third therapy session, after the origin of the sexual problem has been discussed and the couple already have a clear understanding of maintenance reasons.

In the first stage, the couple has two sessions in which they take turns touching each other's bodies, but must not touch her breasts and genital areas. Its usefulness is not sexual but to build a sense by recognizing the sensitivity of texture, temperature, and forms while doing a touch, or simply to get the sensitivity of the touch of a partner. People who do have to touch to touch what he wanted to tap, not on what basis the preferred partner. The couple were instructed that if sexual passion rose, they should not continue to have sex. Masters and Johnson suggested that the training focus should be silent as possible because the sensation of talking can distract. Obviously touched by the couple who must notify, by verbal or non-verbal, when his opponent was not pleasant touch.

In the next stage, the touch expanded to include breast and genitals. People who do touch instructed to begin with a touch of the common parts of the body, did not immediately touch the genitals or breasts. Once again the emphasis is on awareness of physical sensations and not the expectation of sexual response,
and intercourse and orgasm are still not allowed. Couples are then asked to take turns doing the technique of "riding the hand" as a means of nonverbal communication. By placing one hand over her partner's hand while being touched, one can mark if he felt pressure decreased or increased, the speed increased or decreased, or change to any other point. Masters and Johnson warned that this non-verbal messages must be performed in such a way that touched people not in control, but only adds a bit of input to these touches, which in principle is based on the interests of the fingering.

In the next stage, no longer felt alternately fingering each other but both simultaneously. The purpose of this exercise is to train a more natural and real than the physical interaction (people do not usually take turns touching each other), and to help each partner to move attention to certain parts of the body of his opponent, rather than considering its response. These couples are reminded that although already very excited, sex is still prohibited.
Rise to the next stage, still groping together, then at some point the woman is above without attempting to enter the penis into the vagina. In this position, the woman can rub the penis on the clitoris, vulva, and vagina with your mouth does not care whether or not the male erection.

In subsequent sessions, the woman may put the tip of the penis into the vagina if there is an erection, while still focusing on physical sensations and immediately stopped or arrested if one wanted to reach orgasm or nervous. After completing one or two sessions of this level, couples usually feel comfortable to continue in full intercourse without difficulty.

The technique is simple enough to use as part of a comprehensive program of psychological therapy and can achieve dramatic results, even in cases of severe sexual harassment that has been going on for years. The professionals generally agree that there are a variety of dynamics that play a role in the success of these exercises seem simple. One of them, the sensation is a form of exercise focused mental impairment in which a feared situation gradually be solved by solving the single steps are experienced under safe conditions. Furthermore, instructions which explicitly prohibits sexual arousal and orgasm frees each partner from the pressure to create an adequate response to sexual partners.

It is also important that they be given the opportunity to experience pleasure. Therefore, the focus of sensation is a learning experience in which responses can be shaped and delicious sexual anxiety reduced because of the fear of failure has diatasi.Unsur additional therapy focus sensations associated with the psychodynamics

pair of psychosexual problems. Masters and Johnson, along with renowned sex therapist Helen Singer Kaplan, noted that in a gentle touch with their partners, spouses may experience anxiety about physical intimacy that comes from one party or both. Anxiety, and attitudes of rejection that followed became an important way for the exploration of psychotherapy, and can be very important to understand and develop partner relationships in general, which almost certainly has an important influence in their sexual function.

FAILED TO ACHIEVE ORGASM

One of the things to be achieved by pairing the act of intercourse is an orgasm. But why some women difficult to achieve orgasm? The scientific community does not understand how to work in the brain mechanisms that allow the occurrence of orgasm. Consequently, only little scientific data available to explain why some women are not able to reach orgasm. What you can do to fix this?

Know yourself.

Feeling comfortable with your own body is the first step to achieve orgasm. There are some people who say that masturbation can help them to recognize their own bodies better. They become more sensitive and know the areas where their bodies are more sensitive. Of course this is not necessarily true for everyone.

Make sure you are in good mood.

You should feel relaxed and comfortable so that they can feel sexual pleasure entirely by yourself or with your partner. If you're angry with your spouse, this is probably not the best time to have sex.

Talk with your partner.

Tell him what you can stimulate sexual arousal. Many women can not achieve orgasm through intercourse. This is not a sexual dysfunction, but only means that your spouse needs to further identify what you feel most passionate. For example, constant clitoral stimulation needed by many women to achieve orgasm, so say to your spouse so that he continues to this stimulus if necessary. But otherwise there is not much like when this is done for too long, you need to express it as well. Secrecy will not help you at all.

Try a new way.

When in the usual way does not help you, maybe it's time for you to try new ways. Clitoral stimulation by hand may rarely experienced by some women as a means to achieve orgasm, so you are encouraged to find alternative methods of stimulation. In some women, the tool is a way Vibrator
good to massage the clitoris during sexual intercourse. In other women may be another tool is more helpful.

Be positive.

Some women reach the stage where pleasure stimulation does not increase anymore. Many people feel this is the enjoyment when they stop and they will not be able to again achieve orgasm. Once a woman is certain she will not longer be able to have orgasms, that's often what happens.

Touch yourself.

Nothing wrong with you fumble your own body during sexual intercourse with your partner. Stimulation of yourself never hurts, and often can enhance the enjoyment of the agency relationship.

G-SPOT

G-spot (or Grafenberg spot) is the coin of the area extremely sensitive and is situated below the vaginal surface facing to the front of the body. Despite its location is different, the G-spot is usually located in the middle between the hip bone and the cervix, approximately 4.5 inches into the vagina. Researchers have found that in some women feeling more sensitive along the upper vaginal wall, and not just at one point. Since the G-spot is under the surface of the vaginal wall, it must be stimulated indirectly through the vaginal wall.

Many women reported feeling wanted out of urine when the point was first stimulated, but when the stimulation was continued (with an empty bladder), it was very delicious. Some of them even reach orgasm, and there is also the issue of fluid along with the orgasmic contractions earlier. This name given by researchers Perry and Whipple in honor of the German gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg, who first wrote about this, but the presence of the G-spot and their location, has been much debated and controversial. Grafenberg himself pointed to this sensitive area as the point where the urethra (the channel that channel urine from the bladder) are closest to the top of the vaginal wall.

Perry and Whipple insisted that this area is located higher along the vagina, while the other seksologi experts say that the entire outer wall of the vagina, instead of just one point, contains the nerve endings that could produce great stimulus effects when stimulated (stimulation).

Other research shows that for some women, the G-spot does not exist. Also which is still debated is the composition of the liquid (sometimes called female ejaculation results) issued by some women during orgasm due to stimulation of G-spot. According to some researchers that the liquid is urine; others say that it is similar to a fluid element in the male semen (without sperm, of course). Not all women have G-spot discharge, and from some women who spend, do not always go out together every G-spot orgasm.

It is very difficult for a woman to explore the G-spot of its own because most do not have fingers long enough to reach it. Needed the right tools, safe and clean to be inserted into the vagina in search of this point. And working with a partner who is believed to be very enjoyable in finding
G-spot is a woman. By experimenting, a woman can find the type of stimulation that she felt most appropriate.

Stimulation of the penis is usually more effective when done with a fixed pressure and relaxed, not with the usual penis poke, because the G-spot generally needs a strong pressure and at the same place. Adding pressure will slowly help to find the optimum pressure for erotic pleasure without pain. Some women can reach climax only with this kind of pressure;
for some others may greatly increase the level of rangsangannya.

Anal intercourse and the woman on top are effective ways to produce more direct stimulation.