Most of the parents feel uncomfortable and do not understand when and how to begin an answer related to reproduction, especially in Eastern countries such as Indonesia. Still many parents assume, talk about sex, especially to children, is taboo, dirty, and do not deserve.
It is recognized one of his famous psychologist Prof. Dr. W Sarwono Sarlito Psi. According to him, there are several factors inhibiting sexual education for children, among others, sex is still taboo discussed openly, parents do not have the appropriate knowledge, feeling ashamed and embarrassed talking about sex with children. They hope the children will learn and know yourself.
Anakpun become more informed on matters relating to sexuality through television programs, video games or the Internet, even from reading such as magazines.
"While parents and schools do not teach children associated with sexual education," he said in the article Sarlito Sex Education for Children, it necessary? released Dancow Parenting Center.
In fact, sex education to children are not taught the ways to have sex, but rather the attempt to give understanding to the child, in accordance with their age. Particularly regarding sexual appliance functions and problems began to arise the natural instinct, guidance on the importance of protecting and maintaining their intimate organs, as well as provide insight into the behavior of the risks that can occur around sexual issues.
Sarlito asserted, it is fair when children ask questions about all things related to sex because sexuality is developing since infancy, children, teens, to adults. Sexual development was not only about physical development (fisikoseksual), but also psychological (psycho).
Sarlito reveal some of the questions often asked by children. For example, a three-year-old children are often asked how he was born or a boy aged three years, asked why different genitals with his sister.
Then when the child was five years old, the question will also develop ways of thinking. Some of the questions usually posed children aged 5-6 years, among others, why mommy has breasts larger than my father or my mother why her stomach can be big if there is a brother in it.
These questions should be answered according to the age of the child. Unfortunately, parents often ignore the reaction of the child questions such as pretending not to hear or change the subject. There are also some parents who make up stories for children such as child delivered a crane or a child is born from the navel. In fact, children often scolded for asking such questions.
"The reaction may cause the child's parents grew increasingly confused or curious. Could be a child looking for sources of other answers that may be misleading," asserted Sarlito.
Sexual Therapist and expert author Dr. Ruth Talks to Kids: Where You Came From, How Your Body Changes, and What Sex Is All About Dr. Ruth Wastheimer provide examples that parents can do when answering questions children about sex. "After seeing a different girl with him, Jimmy, a boy, asked her mother. After talking awkwardly for 10 minutes about the differences in boys and girls then her mother asked about the other things that we want to know Jimmy," he explained.
But Jimmy just asked about other things that are not related to sex. Indeed in this case, continued Dr. Ruth, Jimmy's mother explains more of what Jimmy wanted to know. Nonetheless, many experts did not make it because Jimmy had parents who want to discuss honestly about sex.
"This is the key to forming a healthy sesksual behavior," he asserted.
It is recognized one of his famous psychologist Prof. Dr. W Sarwono Sarlito Psi. According to him, there are several factors inhibiting sexual education for children, among others, sex is still taboo discussed openly, parents do not have the appropriate knowledge, feeling ashamed and embarrassed talking about sex with children. They hope the children will learn and know yourself.
Anakpun become more informed on matters relating to sexuality through television programs, video games or the Internet, even from reading such as magazines.
"While parents and schools do not teach children associated with sexual education," he said in the article Sarlito Sex Education for Children, it necessary? released Dancow Parenting Center.
In fact, sex education to children are not taught the ways to have sex, but rather the attempt to give understanding to the child, in accordance with their age. Particularly regarding sexual appliance functions and problems began to arise the natural instinct, guidance on the importance of protecting and maintaining their intimate organs, as well as provide insight into the behavior of the risks that can occur around sexual issues.
Sarlito asserted, it is fair when children ask questions about all things related to sex because sexuality is developing since infancy, children, teens, to adults. Sexual development was not only about physical development (fisikoseksual), but also psychological (psycho).
Sarlito reveal some of the questions often asked by children. For example, a three-year-old children are often asked how he was born or a boy aged three years, asked why different genitals with his sister.
Then when the child was five years old, the question will also develop ways of thinking. Some of the questions usually posed children aged 5-6 years, among others, why mommy has breasts larger than my father or my mother why her stomach can be big if there is a brother in it.
These questions should be answered according to the age of the child. Unfortunately, parents often ignore the reaction of the child questions such as pretending not to hear or change the subject. There are also some parents who make up stories for children such as child delivered a crane or a child is born from the navel. In fact, children often scolded for asking such questions.
"The reaction may cause the child's parents grew increasingly confused or curious. Could be a child looking for sources of other answers that may be misleading," asserted Sarlito.
Sexual Therapist and expert author Dr. Ruth Talks to Kids: Where You Came From, How Your Body Changes, and What Sex Is All About Dr. Ruth Wastheimer provide examples that parents can do when answering questions children about sex. "After seeing a different girl with him, Jimmy, a boy, asked her mother. After talking awkwardly for 10 minutes about the differences in boys and girls then her mother asked about the other things that we want to know Jimmy," he explained.
But Jimmy just asked about other things that are not related to sex. Indeed in this case, continued Dr. Ruth, Jimmy's mother explains more of what Jimmy wanted to know. Nonetheless, many experts did not make it because Jimmy had parents who want to discuss honestly about sex.
"This is the key to forming a healthy sesksual behavior," he asserted.
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