Mystery Behind Arrogance
According to the Great Dictionary of Indonesian language, it is called arrogant people who have a sense of superiority and it manifested into a pushy attitude, hubris, arrogance, or hubris. In everyday practice, the arrogance that we enter into the list of vanity. All universal human instinct in this world no one can accept arrogance. Given human instincts and love to hate kearogansian humility. Therefore, the most arrogant people will reject even kearogansian shown to others.
All Scripture in this world prohibiting different forms of kearogansian. Word of Scripture is not to tell (because all people already know), but rather to alert (reminder). Perhaps, because we often forget or are not aware, even though we already know, the reminder is needed in order to realize and remember. One of the reasons why the reminder is important because kearoganan someone can hurt themselves.
Alas the lightest and it is very real: the arrogance that would be a source of error in treating yourself and others. If this is translated to the theory of competence, arrogance that would make a person weak in terms of intrapersonal and interpersonal skills. Arrogance is a distortion. Wise people say, we can not walk a straight line if there are irregularities in his mind.
Questions are sometimes confusing, if the human conscience refuses kearoganan and know what is good, but why this fact is sometimes often emerged kearoganan? Either when observed from the literature or from practice of life, it turns out that there kearoganan us into issues and discussions that are not as easy as we see its physical appearance. Part of the reason is, because the motives behind them vary.
If we reject the kindness of others with a motive for the high prestige or liver, is also close to arrogance. If we reject the advice of others (which in essence it is all we need), with a motive to show that we are the ones who had the most correct, even this close. If we explain ourselves with the explanation that "wah-wah" (but this is contrary to our reality), with motives so that other people perceive us "well", even this close. So, the arrogance that sometimes arise because the motives for the shortfall, fear, incompetence, or because there is something less and minus on ourselves. Arrogance can appear as a form of impingement of keminderan (feeling of lack and feeling of fear).
But sometimes not. Arrogance comes about because it is the fact that we have the reasons for the arrogant. It's like one of the people who become arrogant because of his wealth, because of his knowledge, because of his achievements, because of his expertise, because of his experience, because the family-size, and others.
In management practice, which is considered one of the very danger from people who already have work experience in years is the emergence of arrogance which manifested into a form of attitude or nature, among others: feel is full, a low regard of others, and others. So that became the motive here is the arrogance of someone achievements.
Another thing that often happens too, sometimes it appears as someone kearoganan triggered by certain external factors. Arrogance here temporarily as a reaction. It's like somebody feel humiliated or degraded the dignity of life and take action in the form of attitude and treatment matching. Arrogance shown here is a reactive form of vanity top vanity of others.
In addition to its reaction, there are also other forms of arrogance displayed a person as innate (trait). Here is the innate nature of the point-sfat attached to someone and it's been a long time and have never stepped up to become a kind of label. Arrogance of character like this too often we encounter.
This may be related to upbringing, past experiences, and others. In fact, if you hear many people comment in the field, this kind of arrogance is not only related to personal life history. Occasionally, also associated with a history of social life in a society and as individuals memanifestasikannya personal attitudes.
What is the source?
In theory, all human character, whether good or bad, there must be some influence of two factors, namely the external factors and internal factors. In moral theory it is said that human character is formed from several things, among others: the little gift of knowledge, experience, schools, parents, community environment, reading, mental attitudes or habits.
In the study of psychology known as the term narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Psychology Today (2007), writes that people belonging to these narcissistic, among others, his type is: an arrogant, conceited, self-centered, arrogant or haughty. People who belong to imagine himself as narcissistic is superior or above the others and so they are determined to reflect the excessive lifestyle of success.
In addition, they are also hungry for praise and attention to strengthen her self-value. As a result, the narcissistic model is very sensitive to various kinds of criticism. Even criticism is often regarded as an attempt to bring down or attack. Symptoms and characteristics, among others, described as follows:
- Provide an overreaction to criticism, for example, angry or condescending
- Utilize / uses others to achieve his goal, for example little bit with language telling others that "ordered" or exploiting other people
- Feeling himself as someone important in the excessive concentration
- Enjoy the fantasies associated with the life of a successful, glamorous or luxurious in an inappropriate level of objective needs.
- Expect an irrational treatment
- It takes attention away from other people, hungry for praise
- Easily offended or easily envious or jealous easily
- Lack of empathy toward others
By design not found in nature causes the exact why that person became narcissistic. But a lot of research that revealed that there were indeed certain factors associated with childhood. This is partly too often defended parents who are not educated, excessive praise (the more so that is not factual), a parent who is weak in front of her son, and the less educated to respond to reality in a realistic, fair and objective.
It is a source of external influence when we do not yet have the capacity to choose (feedom to choose) or when still a child. After we are adults, the causes were not valid even if true. Why? We want to get any model of care, the adverse effect of that pride will not return to the model of parenting, but to ourselves. Therefore, after we are adults, the internal factors become decisive. Talking about internal factors, there are some things that we can review to explain the sources of pride. Some of these include:
First, the malice. This venom contains three terms, namely: a) we do not want to see more of others of us, b) we want what other people have received it moved into our hands, c) we want achievement that other people got it immediately disappeared from side. Energized lifestyle envy of energy is often raised vanity. Arrogance that appears it could be to cover keminderan or to show the arrogance and excessive pride
Secondly, ignorance. Stupidity here is understanding the mind closing the door or who is often called "ignorant" (to cover). So it was not stupid in the sense of his little, low education level, do not subscribe to newspapers or magazines, or academic degree does not exist. What kind of foolishness that often make us proud? This example alone: we feel the most right, felt no need to learn from others, felt that all the opinions of others is wrong, and others.
Virus essential folly in the sense that it can affect anyone. A clever person can strike, the academic degree is good, people are low-level academic education, people who want to be pious, and others. People who do not know, but thought he knew everything and refused to be given out, is folly. People who already know, but felt most knowledgeable, also ignorance.
Religious understanding, mastery of knowledge, accumulated experience and achievements are often ignorant of life we do not immediately realize how far to open the mind (the open mind). But, according to Einstein's personal experiences, which most often makes people become stupid (closed mind) it is ignorance. Moreover, if ignorance was coupled with "stubborn" (stubbornness). Perfected in situ.
Thirdly, an imbalance in the put locus of control. So life is balanced, meaning that we should not over and not feel inferior, we are commanded to put the control center in two places. The first one, we are commanded to put it in ourselves. Make yourself as the main control center. The second, plug the controller also outside (make another person as a mirror to fix myself).
If this is not balanced, vanity very often emerged. For example, we looked into more intensive and more ignoring others. This often makes us like frogs in a shell. We feel great myself, feel is everything. We can also actually feel the opposite. We're keeping an unjustified keminderan.
Conversely, if we are more intensive look out and ignore the need to look into, even this once. Frequency of looking out could potentially make us lose the footing, have less self-knowledge that is more accurate, and others. The loss of this ground-potential rise to the disorder. Some form ya pride. Even this more often give birth very unreasonable conceit.
Fourth, the maturity of life. The less mature we are, the more often it appears arrogance. What kind of maturity is life? If you listen to his advice Tao, that maturity is the fruit of a person diving or purport to reality. This is exactly the same advice in our tradition. The man often described as rice. More and contain him, he's getting to the bottom. It digests more and more people (not just experiencing) the various realities of life, the deeper "understanding" it.
Many religious advice which recommends that we look at reality with a variety of colors. For example we are commanded to visit the sick, help the person being trouble, attending funerals, and others. It all really is an instrument to be more "down" into reality. In addition given the variety of instruments, we were given a universal instinct, for instance, everyone was (in essence) are afraid of death, although death is a certainty. Everyone is worried about the disaster, although it sometimes can not be (difficult) avoided. These are all forms of alamiyah instruments we can use to turn off virus arrogance.
Fifth, hedonism. In practice, this hedonism is often understood as a teaching / doctrine of happiness and life menempatakan kesenangsenangan as a single destination. Actually this is not what makes hedonism is viewed less positively. Then what? Hedonism menempatakan material or luxury materials as the sole source of happiness and kesenangsenangan. Hedonism mengenyampingan spirituality. The strength of spirituality that aside this is the major source of negativity, including one of them is pride.
If it is returned to the religion, hedonism is viewed as a gap that allows demons (negative energy) into our souls. Once Satan has entered the soul, then what will be done is lit the fire of hostility (inner or birth), unfair competition, or the comparison of scholastic achievement irrespective of the roots of consciousness to improve themselves (the race to collect treasure and wealth and " flaunt it ").
Therefore, civilization teaches us to turn to spirituality. Spirituality is not anti-wealth and luxury. Spirituality is an awareness here who question: "what is the fundamental reason of our actions, what the purpose, how to make our lives more meaningful more for themselves and others?". This is so that we remain in a state step control.
Learning Process
There are at least two facts that could explain the pride in man. The first, not everyone likes to see pride in others. The second, no one can accept with sincere pride when corrected others. Therefore, the most effective solution is a correction of the self. How? Part of the process that we can do is:
First, always creating a positive comparison. This means that we see others as beings who have excess material and have something that we can make to improve yourself, anyone else's. If we see someone who is above us and we'll try to find the material self-improvement, then kearoganan be controlled. Likewise if you see an equivalent or below. So the point is to bring confidence and perspective that everyone else we see that there are certain sides become excess and that we can make the material self-improvement.
Second, direct correction. Sometimes we come up speech, behavior, and properties containing new pride and we realize that after the happening or when we meditate. Tindakn wise we need to do is correct what we have done so this never happens again and formulate speech format, behaviors, or attributes much of the content of arrogance.
Third, the growing impetus for the process of learning (learning to live). According to theories of learning, there are three essential principles that must be executed so that we do that process, namely:
- Open mind (open mind): add insight, consider the opinions of others, eliminating the passion "felt it was most true self", etc.
- Raises the urge to change into a better direction continuously. Once we've felt he had reached the summit and all the peaks, it is usually easy Satan tempts us to become arrogant
- Improve themselves based on what we've done, whether wrong or right, whether good or bad, and so on.
This learning process will in turn we comprehend the reality of real life.
Fourth, learn to live simply. Simple here does not mean poor or pretending poor. Is a simple proportional moderation. Put simply rich people are avoiding kefoya-foyaan or superfluous for the things that small benefit. Meanwhile, people who simply have not / did not avoid the appearance of wealth is the desire to gain wealth by their own miserable self. This is so that we do not fall into the trap of hedonism.
Fifth, learn to choose an expression, attitude and decisions come from careful humility (humble). The trick? Of course, all kinds. For instance: to see how other people, read books, to correct ourselves in the past, and others. Why is this important? In practice there is always a paradox of Law who worked in this world. That law stipulated that when we are humble, instead of feedback that emerged was the opposite. Conversely, once we snobby (arrogant), feedback also appears opposite.
According to the Great Dictionary of Indonesian language, it is called arrogant people who have a sense of superiority and it manifested into a pushy attitude, hubris, arrogance, or hubris. In everyday practice, the arrogance that we enter into the list of vanity. All universal human instinct in this world no one can accept arrogance. Given human instincts and love to hate kearogansian humility. Therefore, the most arrogant people will reject even kearogansian shown to others.
All Scripture in this world prohibiting different forms of kearogansian. Word of Scripture is not to tell (because all people already know), but rather to alert (reminder). Perhaps, because we often forget or are not aware, even though we already know, the reminder is needed in order to realize and remember. One of the reasons why the reminder is important because kearoganan someone can hurt themselves.
Alas the lightest and it is very real: the arrogance that would be a source of error in treating yourself and others. If this is translated to the theory of competence, arrogance that would make a person weak in terms of intrapersonal and interpersonal skills. Arrogance is a distortion. Wise people say, we can not walk a straight line if there are irregularities in his mind.
Questions are sometimes confusing, if the human conscience refuses kearoganan and know what is good, but why this fact is sometimes often emerged kearoganan? Either when observed from the literature or from practice of life, it turns out that there kearoganan us into issues and discussions that are not as easy as we see its physical appearance. Part of the reason is, because the motives behind them vary.
If we reject the kindness of others with a motive for the high prestige or liver, is also close to arrogance. If we reject the advice of others (which in essence it is all we need), with a motive to show that we are the ones who had the most correct, even this close. If we explain ourselves with the explanation that "wah-wah" (but this is contrary to our reality), with motives so that other people perceive us "well", even this close. So, the arrogance that sometimes arise because the motives for the shortfall, fear, incompetence, or because there is something less and minus on ourselves. Arrogance can appear as a form of impingement of keminderan (feeling of lack and feeling of fear).
But sometimes not. Arrogance comes about because it is the fact that we have the reasons for the arrogant. It's like one of the people who become arrogant because of his wealth, because of his knowledge, because of his achievements, because of his expertise, because of his experience, because the family-size, and others.
In management practice, which is considered one of the very danger from people who already have work experience in years is the emergence of arrogance which manifested into a form of attitude or nature, among others: feel is full, a low regard of others, and others. So that became the motive here is the arrogance of someone achievements.
Another thing that often happens too, sometimes it appears as someone kearoganan triggered by certain external factors. Arrogance here temporarily as a reaction. It's like somebody feel humiliated or degraded the dignity of life and take action in the form of attitude and treatment matching. Arrogance shown here is a reactive form of vanity top vanity of others.
In addition to its reaction, there are also other forms of arrogance displayed a person as innate (trait). Here is the innate nature of the point-sfat attached to someone and it's been a long time and have never stepped up to become a kind of label. Arrogance of character like this too often we encounter.
This may be related to upbringing, past experiences, and others. In fact, if you hear many people comment in the field, this kind of arrogance is not only related to personal life history. Occasionally, also associated with a history of social life in a society and as individuals memanifestasikannya personal attitudes.
What is the source?
In theory, all human character, whether good or bad, there must be some influence of two factors, namely the external factors and internal factors. In moral theory it is said that human character is formed from several things, among others: the little gift of knowledge, experience, schools, parents, community environment, reading, mental attitudes or habits.
In the study of psychology known as the term narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Psychology Today (2007), writes that people belonging to these narcissistic, among others, his type is: an arrogant, conceited, self-centered, arrogant or haughty. People who belong to imagine himself as narcissistic is superior or above the others and so they are determined to reflect the excessive lifestyle of success.
In addition, they are also hungry for praise and attention to strengthen her self-value. As a result, the narcissistic model is very sensitive to various kinds of criticism. Even criticism is often regarded as an attempt to bring down or attack. Symptoms and characteristics, among others, described as follows:
- Provide an overreaction to criticism, for example, angry or condescending
- Utilize / uses others to achieve his goal, for example little bit with language telling others that "ordered" or exploiting other people
- Feeling himself as someone important in the excessive concentration
- Enjoy the fantasies associated with the life of a successful, glamorous or luxurious in an inappropriate level of objective needs.
- Expect an irrational treatment
- It takes attention away from other people, hungry for praise
- Easily offended or easily envious or jealous easily
- Lack of empathy toward others
By design not found in nature causes the exact why that person became narcissistic. But a lot of research that revealed that there were indeed certain factors associated with childhood. This is partly too often defended parents who are not educated, excessive praise (the more so that is not factual), a parent who is weak in front of her son, and the less educated to respond to reality in a realistic, fair and objective.
It is a source of external influence when we do not yet have the capacity to choose (feedom to choose) or when still a child. After we are adults, the causes were not valid even if true. Why? We want to get any model of care, the adverse effect of that pride will not return to the model of parenting, but to ourselves. Therefore, after we are adults, the internal factors become decisive. Talking about internal factors, there are some things that we can review to explain the sources of pride. Some of these include:
First, the malice. This venom contains three terms, namely: a) we do not want to see more of others of us, b) we want what other people have received it moved into our hands, c) we want achievement that other people got it immediately disappeared from side. Energized lifestyle envy of energy is often raised vanity. Arrogance that appears it could be to cover keminderan or to show the arrogance and excessive pride
Secondly, ignorance. Stupidity here is understanding the mind closing the door or who is often called "ignorant" (to cover). So it was not stupid in the sense of his little, low education level, do not subscribe to newspapers or magazines, or academic degree does not exist. What kind of foolishness that often make us proud? This example alone: we feel the most right, felt no need to learn from others, felt that all the opinions of others is wrong, and others.
Virus essential folly in the sense that it can affect anyone. A clever person can strike, the academic degree is good, people are low-level academic education, people who want to be pious, and others. People who do not know, but thought he knew everything and refused to be given out, is folly. People who already know, but felt most knowledgeable, also ignorance.
Religious understanding, mastery of knowledge, accumulated experience and achievements are often ignorant of life we do not immediately realize how far to open the mind (the open mind). But, according to Einstein's personal experiences, which most often makes people become stupid (closed mind) it is ignorance. Moreover, if ignorance was coupled with "stubborn" (stubbornness). Perfected in situ.
Thirdly, an imbalance in the put locus of control. So life is balanced, meaning that we should not over and not feel inferior, we are commanded to put the control center in two places. The first one, we are commanded to put it in ourselves. Make yourself as the main control center. The second, plug the controller also outside (make another person as a mirror to fix myself).
If this is not balanced, vanity very often emerged. For example, we looked into more intensive and more ignoring others. This often makes us like frogs in a shell. We feel great myself, feel is everything. We can also actually feel the opposite. We're keeping an unjustified keminderan.
Conversely, if we are more intensive look out and ignore the need to look into, even this once. Frequency of looking out could potentially make us lose the footing, have less self-knowledge that is more accurate, and others. The loss of this ground-potential rise to the disorder. Some form ya pride. Even this more often give birth very unreasonable conceit.
Fourth, the maturity of life. The less mature we are, the more often it appears arrogance. What kind of maturity is life? If you listen to his advice Tao, that maturity is the fruit of a person diving or purport to reality. This is exactly the same advice in our tradition. The man often described as rice. More and contain him, he's getting to the bottom. It digests more and more people (not just experiencing) the various realities of life, the deeper "understanding" it.
Many religious advice which recommends that we look at reality with a variety of colors. For example we are commanded to visit the sick, help the person being trouble, attending funerals, and others. It all really is an instrument to be more "down" into reality. In addition given the variety of instruments, we were given a universal instinct, for instance, everyone was (in essence) are afraid of death, although death is a certainty. Everyone is worried about the disaster, although it sometimes can not be (difficult) avoided. These are all forms of alamiyah instruments we can use to turn off virus arrogance.
Fifth, hedonism. In practice, this hedonism is often understood as a teaching / doctrine of happiness and life menempatakan kesenangsenangan as a single destination. Actually this is not what makes hedonism is viewed less positively. Then what? Hedonism menempatakan material or luxury materials as the sole source of happiness and kesenangsenangan. Hedonism mengenyampingan spirituality. The strength of spirituality that aside this is the major source of negativity, including one of them is pride.
If it is returned to the religion, hedonism is viewed as a gap that allows demons (negative energy) into our souls. Once Satan has entered the soul, then what will be done is lit the fire of hostility (inner or birth), unfair competition, or the comparison of scholastic achievement irrespective of the roots of consciousness to improve themselves (the race to collect treasure and wealth and " flaunt it ").
Therefore, civilization teaches us to turn to spirituality. Spirituality is not anti-wealth and luxury. Spirituality is an awareness here who question: "what is the fundamental reason of our actions, what the purpose, how to make our lives more meaningful more for themselves and others?". This is so that we remain in a state step control.
Learning Process
There are at least two facts that could explain the pride in man. The first, not everyone likes to see pride in others. The second, no one can accept with sincere pride when corrected others. Therefore, the most effective solution is a correction of the self. How? Part of the process that we can do is:
First, always creating a positive comparison. This means that we see others as beings who have excess material and have something that we can make to improve yourself, anyone else's. If we see someone who is above us and we'll try to find the material self-improvement, then kearoganan be controlled. Likewise if you see an equivalent or below. So the point is to bring confidence and perspective that everyone else we see that there are certain sides become excess and that we can make the material self-improvement.
Second, direct correction. Sometimes we come up speech, behavior, and properties containing new pride and we realize that after the happening or when we meditate. Tindakn wise we need to do is correct what we have done so this never happens again and formulate speech format, behaviors, or attributes much of the content of arrogance.
Third, the growing impetus for the process of learning (learning to live). According to theories of learning, there are three essential principles that must be executed so that we do that process, namely:
- Open mind (open mind): add insight, consider the opinions of others, eliminating the passion "felt it was most true self", etc.
- Raises the urge to change into a better direction continuously. Once we've felt he had reached the summit and all the peaks, it is usually easy Satan tempts us to become arrogant
- Improve themselves based on what we've done, whether wrong or right, whether good or bad, and so on.
This learning process will in turn we comprehend the reality of real life.
Fourth, learn to live simply. Simple here does not mean poor or pretending poor. Is a simple proportional moderation. Put simply rich people are avoiding kefoya-foyaan or superfluous for the things that small benefit. Meanwhile, people who simply have not / did not avoid the appearance of wealth is the desire to gain wealth by their own miserable self. This is so that we do not fall into the trap of hedonism.
Fifth, learn to choose an expression, attitude and decisions come from careful humility (humble). The trick? Of course, all kinds. For instance: to see how other people, read books, to correct ourselves in the past, and others. Why is this important? In practice there is always a paradox of Law who worked in this world. That law stipulated that when we are humble, instead of feedback that emerged was the opposite. Conversely, once we snobby (arrogant), feedback also appears opposite.
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